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Are You Sitting Too Comfortably?

How to stretch your comfort zone

Maggie Currie

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An Imprint of Melrose Press Limited

St Thomas Place, Ely

Cambridgeshire CB7 4GG, UK

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FIRST EDITION

Copyright © Maggie Currie 2015

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ISBN 978-1-910792-06-3

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Contents:

1What is your comfort zone?

2Why are you in your comfort zone?

3What will you get from breaking free of your comfort zone?

4Stepping out or staying in your comfort zone?

5How to step out of your comfort zone

6Stretch your boundaries. What will you experience?

7You have done it once, can you do it again?

My Story

Stepping out of my comfort zone

Bibliography

Chapter 1

What is your comfort zone?

Do you have a comfort zone? If so, are you aware of how far it will stretch? Are you unsure if you even have a comfort zone?

If your answer is no to the first and second questions and yes to the third, you are not alone. Many people have absolutely no idea what a comfort zone is, and whether they have one or not. That doesn’t mean they are stupid or uninformed; it just means they have yet to discover the boundaries they have set for themselves. We all set boundaries for ourselves, but often our subconscious does it for us and, surprisingly, we are not even aware of it. The subconscious has an awful lot to answer for, and I will go into more detail about that later on in this book.

When I mention stepping outside of your comfort zone to my clients they frequently ask:

‘What is a comfort zone?’

‘How do I know if I have one?’

‘If I have one, what can I do to step out of it?’

‘Why would I want to step outside of my comfort zone?’

My answer is this: your comfort zone is an artificial boundary that you have created, either consciously or subconsciously. Your comfort zone gives you a sense of security and feelings of comfort whilst you are within it. Within your comfort zone everything is routine, familiar and safe, and nothing out of the ordinary happens. And you can quite happily live your entire life within your comfort zone. You feel safe. You feel that everything is okay and you can predict what is going to happen. Nothing changes dramatically. There may be a few minor changes, but nothing to push your boundaries.

Within your comfort zone you will rarely seem pushed or stretched, and as a result you won’t be able to unlock your full potential or achieve the full extent of your capabilities. Your comfort zone encompasses your home life, your work life, your social life; every single part of your everyday life.

Is the relationship you are in plodding along? Does it only exist because you don’t want to change it? Does your job only pay you a salary but not inspire you? Do you get up for work and go in without really enjoying it?

Maybe you are staying in your job or in your relationship because it feels familiar, or it offers what you perceive to be security. You feel safe where you are within your comfort zone because you fear what will happen if you were to push your boundaries and take a step out of it.

For instance, what would happen if you were to end your relationship with someone who you are really not very happy with, instead of just plodding on? There are several possibilities here. You might well be alone for the first time in a long while, and you may feel lonely. Or you may find that you are happier being alone, and not feel lonely at all.

If you were to change your job, there would be a change to your familiar routine. You may fear that you would not be up to a new challenge.

Those are fears that keep you where you are. Safe within your comfort zone. But most fears, about 98% of them, never actually come to anything. They are your subconscious mind telling you that you can’t do it, because the one thing your subconscious does not like is change. It likes the habits you are in, it has got used to the routine and likes it, and therefore it will try to keep you there.

But, are you really benefiting from staying within your comfort zone? What is staying inside your comfort zone doing to your performance as a person? Well, it is locking you into a pattern of behaviour that restricts both you and your abilities. It is locking you into a thought pattern of ‘I can’t achieve more’. If that is happening and you are happy with that, there is no problem.